Never Trust Me......

Well I hope to be a skinny chef. OR rather a healthier, more energetic, and of course smaller chef.  Well since this blog has been neglected for so long, and I have a problem with committing to something for a short time, and come back to it over and over again (see name of blog) I'll just go ahead and get right into it without a long introduction.

Week 1 Goal- Eat Mostly Whole Grains, and Eliminate Fast Food, Soda, Sugar, and Processed Foods and Cardio Exercise for 45 Minutes Every Day
This is a tough one.  I don't eat a ton of fast food or soda, but I know that number tends to go up when the husband is not here because of the *ahem* Coast Guard. It also means finding substitutes for the refined grains I have been eating, and cooking more things from scratch (ugh! I like cooking, but I do have cooking strikes pretty frequently. Again see above blog name) There is more, but for now I will leave it as is, because I really don't have any idea what I am doing, and hopefully I don't give up before it can become a learning experience.

FOOD JOURNAL-CABBAGE

Good lettuce substitute when you don't want nasty wilted lettuce.  Me, I prefer it to a bed of lettuce under Sweet and Sour Chinese Food, and on top of enchiladas.

Stir Fry

Shredded into a Green Salad

Food Journal-Summer Inspired

Popsicles

Ice Cream Cones

Grilled Hot Dogs

Grilled Hamburgers

Potato Chips

Cheese Puffs

Ice Cold Soda

Lemonade

Sweet Tea

Sun Tea

Picniks

Spicy Foods (i.e. Nachos, Buffalo Wings etc. which in International Cuisine is popular in other cultures during the heat because it makes you sweat to cool you off)

Cold Salads (Egg, Chicken, Potato, Pasta)
Watermelon

Make Do and Eat- Sea Scallop Cobb Salad

Spinach

Baby Romaine

Sea Scallops from our local fish fry shop

Lemon Vinaigrette

Corn

Crumbled Bacon

Cherry Tomatoes

Avocado Slices

I had about 30 minutes to make and eat dinner after running errands ALL day, and had to go out again for class afterwards.  This is what we concocted.  Got the idea from a magazine, that is packed in a box right now.  We just used what we had on hand.

How I Plan My Menu-MENU THEMES

Image Source: http://www.stuffosaurus.com/c/fat-pride-humor/

A lot of the experience that I gain is applied to the cooking I do for my family at home. Some places I have worked at had a theme for each day of the week, that still allowed for some deviation and inspiration.  I like the idea of organization and having a set, albeit, easily adaptable schedule.  Here are the guidelines I usually go by when planning my grocery shopping:

MONDAY:  Kid Friendly Night, Sandwiches, Soup, Salads, Easy Meals

TUESDAY:  Mexican, Southwest, Central American, Southern

WEDNESDAY: Seafood, Shellfish

THURSDAY: Indian, Chinese, Thai, Japanese

FRIDAY: Fish Night

SATURDAY:  Italian, Greek, Mediterranean

SUNDAY:  Comfort Food, Indulgences, and some kind of Baked Good



MENU MONDAY

MONDAY

Homemade Chicken Nuggets Homemade Mac & Cheese and Blanched Chilled Asparagus

TUESDAY

Whole Wheat Steak Potato Bell Pepper and Cheddar Fajitas

WEDNESDAY

Shrimp Cobb Salad

THURSDAY

Curried Yellow Split Pea Soup and Naan

FRIDAY

Homemade Fish Fry with Salad and French Fries

SATURDAY

Antipasti and Build Your Own Subs

SUNDAY

Turkey Chili and Bacon Cheddar Corn Muffins

Make Do-Handmade Lemony Sugar Hand Scrub

No, not a food post.  I have been feeling off in the health department as of late, and so have been doing very little cooking.  However, I have been looking for a moisturizing, natural, sweet smelling hand scrub, and haven't found one that fits the bill.  So I figured, why not make my own.  I got the "recipe" for it here, and can't wait to try it out tonight before bed.

The only changes I made are: I used Extra-Virgin Olive Oil instead of Canola Oil, and I used about 20 drops of Organic Lemon Essential Oil.  I like the smell of olive oil and lemon together.  It's very Tuscan.

Since it has natural ingredients in it, this is it's home for now, not the romantic looking picture I took above for visually pleasing reasons. That's not even my bathroom. lol.  Maybe if I omit the lemon juice, and used water instead it would be more shelf stable.  I like it the way it is though, and it will feel really nice as the weather warms up.  Lemon is the quintessential summer smell in my humble opinion.

Next up I'm going to try Lavender and Lemon.  Yum!

FOOD JOURNAL- AVOCADO

Avocado Compound Butter

Guacamole

Tortilla Soup

Paralyzed by Fear and My Parenting Philosophy

"So believe me when I tell you I got a big scar. Man, God meant marriage to be for life. That's why you gotta keep your vows to Catherine. You gotta beg God to teach you to be a good husband. And don't just follow your heart, man; 'cause your heart can be deceived. But you gotta lead your heart."

http://www.imdb.com/title/tt1129423/quotes

The above quote is from one of my favorite movies. 2008's Fireproof by Sherwood films.  It is touching, full of wisdom, uplifting, and interesting in a way that the average person can relate to without the heart pounding action, or special effects.  A movie that makes you think about things that you most likely have to deal with in your life at some point.  Yes the acting is cheesy, and the not so subtle attempts at throwing in evangelism are laughable, but I digress.  If you took the above quote, and replaced it with parenting, parenthood, mothering... then you have my parenting philosophy, and unfortunately the way that I myself wasn't raised.

Yes a very cryptic post, but I don't feel ready to give a full account of my childhood, and the lessons on how I DON'T want to parent my children just yet.  I hope to someday, because like Michael from the movie, I have a big scar, that I feel I am becoming finally ready to deal with.  I just need to figure out how. For those lucky enough to have attached yourself to a certain parenting philosophy that is working for you, or had a positive example to be lead you by, I say good for you.  Myself, I am raising using a sort of opposite Golden Rule, "treat others the opposite of how I didn't want to be treated."

I am not even close to proclaiming perfection or even some kind of enlightenment with my parenting. Yes, there are many holes in my parenting philosophy, that can let important decisions slip through, and it will need to be elaborated on in the future.  However, I like to think it can be an example of how to rise above adveristy, and turn it into something good.

Genesis 50:20

American King James VersionBut as for you, you thought evil against me; but God meant it to good, to bring to pass, as it is this day, to save much people alive.

My randomness aka p.s. I know the above bible verse talks about the saving of many lives from a famine.  I add it in more for the underlined part, however I like to think that God saved the emotional lives of at least two little people, because of this revelation.

Food Journal-BUTTTERNUT SQUASH

Butternut Squash Soup

Butternut Squash Crescent Rolls

Butternut Squash Casserole

Butternut Squash Dumplings with Brown Butter and Sage

Food Journal-PUMPKIN

Pumpkin Pie

Pumpkin Muffins

Pumpkin Soup with Sausage

Pumpkin Bread

Pumpkin Chocolate Chip Cookies



Food Journal-APPLES

Waldorf Salad

Apple Pie

Apple Crisp

Apple Compote with Ham Steak

Grilled Ham, Apple, and Cheese Sandwiches

Apple Yeast Bread

Crackers with Apple and Cheese Slices

Dip Apple Slices in a Mixture of Greek Yogurt, Cinnamon, and Honey (it's like apple cinnamon yogurt only yummier, and probably better for you since you eat the skins as well)

Food Inspiration



The menu at Brix 25 in Gig Harbor, WA.  I will go here every single time I am in Washington.

http://www.harborbrix.com/food.html

Being Thankful

God gave you a gift of 86,400 seconds today.  Have you used one to say "thank you?"  ~William A. Ward

Source: http://www.flickr.com/photos/labimposter/423396234/

My bulbs are coming in!

My Migraine is coming back so this blog will be shorter......

Because I gave this up for Lent.

I know I will feel better in a few days.  But until then I have to focus on beating my addiction.

I wish my blog had a name as cool as the.......

If you've ever watched the show Arrested Development, you will get the joke.  Check it out if you haven't already.  Sadly it's off-air now, proving what my brother-in-law says, "clever television doesn't last."  On the show Bob Loblaw is the dysfunctional family's lawyer who's name, when said fast enough, sounds like BlaBlaBla.  One of the main character's mentions the Bob Loblaw Law Blog-BlaBlaBlaBlaBla.  Kills me.

Life of a busy mom.......

I was so proud of myself for creating our dinner menu this Monday, however I forgot to take into account the amount of activities we have going on this week!  Lesson learned: keep your planning calendar nearby if you plan on creating any kind of eating schedule for that week.  So instead of the luscious family style dinner of comfort food this Sunday, we are going to be driving for a cheer competition to Lord knows where.  Which means:

A)  Big all day lazy cooking is out

B)  Major planning ahead of where we are going to eat dinner that night.  We learned this lesson at the last cheer competition when we drove around aimlessly looking for a place to eat lunch during a two-hour break.

C)  If we want to avoid large portions, high calories, and un-wallet friendly offerings the whole day there is going to have to be some planning on our part for lunch.  With a picky toddler, a low-carb husband, and me trying to eat healthier that means some grocery shopping tonight.

Of course missing church this Sunday meant we went on Wednesday instead.  Which means we didn't do Wednesday's dinner either.  With today being class presentation at my daughter's school, and then tumbling class tonight, cheer practice tommorow, my dance class tomorrow night, and competition all day Sunday, my big menu plans will not be lived out to their fullest.

I don't regret it though, because planning out our weekly eating plan actually helped me prepare for these little obstacles, and since so much you do revolves around eating times, it actually helped me organize the time that I wouldn't be eating.  Think about it.  When does the baby go down for a nap?  After eating.  What was the first thing you did when you came home from school?  Got a snack!  Then probably did some homework or played.  So much of our lives revolves around the food we take.  If you plan on doing any daily schedule in the fututre the best place to start is planning meal times.

So that's my little lesson learned:  making sure normal activities and meal times co-exist harmoniously.  Up on this weekends agenda is:

Planning meals that involve less cooking time.  Might have to become more informed on Crock Pot meals....

Buying lunches and snacks for Sunday.

Making Energy Balls and Trail Mix (or what I like to affectionately call "diahrrea") Cookies for Sunday.

Trying to get some sort of tutorial up showing what I made!



Menu Monday

MONDAY

We had to trade in our tv, and we actually ate out tonight.

TUESDAY

Chicken Quesadillas with Quacamole and Pinto Beans

WEDNESDAY

Mystery Soup

THURSDAY

Tofu and Vegetable Thai Curry with Thai Green Tossed Salad

FRIDAY

Tilapia Piccata and Celeriac Puree

SATURDAY

Shrimp Diablo Marinara, Spaghetti Squash (for the hubs!)  Soft Mashed Polenta, Roasted Vegetables

SUNDAY

Roasted Pork Loin with Fig Sauce and Wild Mushroom Risotto

Mystery Dessert!

Make Do and Eat: White Bean and Chicken Soup

AN INTRODUCTION

Here is my latest food experiment.  Currently I keep a food journal in a spiral notebook where I right down meal ideas for special ingredients such as what to make with brussel sprouts, apples, ham, etc. etc.  My current goal is to incorporate more fruits and vegetables in our diet, and more variety.  This couldn't have come at a better time considering my husband is on a low-carb diet, and I intend to improve my health as well.

When I was in Culinary School our Introduction to Culinary Arts instructor, the very funny Chef Ron, pushed the policy, "Total utilization is our ultimate goal," and I concur.  I hate throwing away wasted ingredients, buying what I already have, and having a meal come out so bad that it sits in the fridge uneaten.  Food costs are just as important in the home as in the restaurant, and while your family won't go out of business like most restaurants will if you don't control your spending, as Alton Brown would say, "Organization will set you free."

I was reading some posts about fashion on the ration involving the policy of make do and mend which was a big idea during World War II.  While I'm definitely not on my way yet to upcycling and altering my clothing around mine or my families needs, I believe I have enough experience with the food industry, to apply those same concepts to our weekly meal plan.  Hence my brainchild, the make do and eat experiment.  Where one night a week I have to make one dinner that is completely unplanned, made only with ingredients I have on hand, and with no prep done beforehand.

Experiment #1 White Bean and Chicken Soup
When my son was a newborn, we ate ALOT of already prepared meals, and the fresh soups from the grocery store were one of my favorites.  At the time I couldn't have dairy, because my breastfeeding son was allergic, so when I was in the mood for creamy without the dairy I would eat alot of the Rosemary White Bean Chicken soup from Safeway.  Here is my interpretation of that with ingredients I had on hand.

First I sorted and washed one bag of white beans.  Great Northern or Navy beans would work here as well.  Notice I didn't soak the beans overnight?  You really don't need to if you don't mind your beans being mushy, which in this recipe, would be preferable.  You will however have to allow extra cooking time.

Next I surveyed what kind of produce we had on hand.  Hearts of celery, an onion, a couple cloves of garlic from the commissary (where the produce tends to be found lacking in the freshness and flavor department), and some leftover carrots from the last time we went to the farmer's market (about 1-2 months ago!  and still tasting fresher and sweeter than most supermarket carrots.  On a side note if you can get your produce at a farmer's market than there is no better way to go, besides growing it yourself)
I washed, scrubbed, peeled, and chopped those up including the leaves of the celery which are fine where prettiness isn't a concern, like in this almost stew like soup.

A bowl to catch food garbage is a good idea if you don't have a trash can nearby.  I would say even if you do have one nearby it's still a good idea, since touching a trash lid is never a good idea while you are cutting up your dinner.  The Tinkerbell mug in the background used to be my favorite, but I have since gone to a smaller mug, because I have cut back my caffeine consumption.

Added a small amount of Pure (not Extra Virgin) Olive oil to a large soup pot.  Turned the heat to medium-low, and threw in a pinch of kosher salt.  This process is called sweating, and the goal is to cook the vegetables until they turn transparent, and the moisture is drawn out of them.  We won't be browning during this process.  The veggie mixture of 2 parts onion to 1 part celery, and 1 part carrot is called a mirepoix.  There are many types of mirepoixs and they are the basis for many frequently made dishes.  This is a French mirepoix.

While the veggies were starting to cook, I used my chef's knife to chop up the garlic.  You'll want to add garlic at the end of cooking because it will burn faster than the other vegetables will.

A note about knife placement.  This was a big one they emphasized in school, and one I use at home expecially if you have small ones running around at home or you are prone to bumping into stuff.  Above is the wrong way to set down your knife when you aren't using it.  See how it is in the middle of the cutting board.

And this is the right way.  I keep a wet abrasive cloth under my board to keep it from sliding on the counter.  Blade facing away from you, and as far back on the cutting board as possible.  Off of and behind the cutting board would be even better, but obviously I don't have the room here!  Also, if you drop your knife DON'T try to catch it, and don't stand there and watch it fall to your feet.  Sounds obvious, but seriously you will want to catch it, and it will be a reflex.  Step back and let it fall to the floor.  I have known too many cooks who have taken trips to the ER because of this.

OK.  Add the garlic and soften it for only about a minute.  It will add an intoxicating smell to your kitchen.

Add beans and broth to the pot.  I used about 1 1/2 containers of low-sodium natural chicken broth.  I wish I could give an exact amount, but really it all depends on what you put into your pot.  I always have 3 kinds of broth on hand, so if I needed more than this I could have opened a new container.  I added just enough to cover the tops of the beans.

Now normally I would have ground some rosemary in my mortal and pestle (or chopped with a knife if you don't have one, or even run through a clean coffee grinder which wouldn't be my personal preference because rosemary powder just sounds weird, but to each there own.  Powder would be better than rosemary stems getting stuck in your teeth) and added it now.  However I discovered we were out so I instead added thyme.  Thyme is not going to substitute rosemary in any way, but I find that I like it in chicken so in it went.

Bring to a boil.  Do not season to taste yet.  Wait until it is cooked down or you may oversalt.  Bring to a boil, reduce to a simmer, and cover.  Again I wish I could give exact times, but there are just too many factors.  Cook it until it's done.  One of my cookbooks said about 1-1/2 hours, but I found it took closer to 2-3 hours.  You'll just have to check it from time to time.  Once the beans are soft it is done.

I like to remove the lid for a few minutes, and let it simmer uncovered to cook off some of the condensation that drips down from the lid.  I feel it gives a prettier appearance, and a more appealing texture.  I tasted and added salt and pepper to my liking.  I added previously cooked chicken from another meal again I don't have exact amounts I just added to my liking.  The chicken was frozen so I cooked just until it was warmed through.  Since the soup was so beige I added bagged frozen peas for added color and nutrition, and removed the pot from the heat.  The residual heat is enough to cook the peas through by the time the soup is served at the table.

TA-DA!!!!!!!

What I Learned About Social Networking Etiquette

I recently had a bad experience with a certain social networking site (we'll say it rhymes with Shmacebook).  The problem wasn't the site itself, but the way it is being used to push political, parenting, social, ettiquette, religious, etc etc... agendas.  I'm all for being passionate about something, have a purpose in your life, and believing in something.  A lot of the time I am envious of individuals who do, mainly because, in my own life I tend to take a half/half position on most things, and at times that feels like too much information to deal with.  Sometimes I wish I could see more things in black and white, but this is my personality, and I have to deal with who I am. 

My problem is when a person is called names, or belittled for their beliefs, or when a person is so sure about their particular method, that they somehow feel above whoever doesn't share that belief.  I wish that we as human beings could present the best information we can, and then let it go.  However, this is wishful and idealic thinking, and will never be so.  Maybe it's because I am sensitive, but if I (or someone I know) am attacked for what I do, or if I am more passively aggressively attacked (i.e. well if you don't do this then you are a bad......)  I do take it personally.  I know people who are stronger in this area of their personalities than me.  For me I tend to avoid after that.  I will not continue to squabble.  I will walk away (usually bitterly), and continue to do what I want.  I'm not talking about debating either.  True debate shouldn't get emotional.  You don't attack personally in debate.

So I took a week long internet break.  And it was kind of nice.  No gossip, no bashing, no unfriendly advice, no defensiveness.  No support either.  I did miss my social interactions.  Most of my networking is done online now, and it has many wonderful points, far more than the negative.  However, I  do get fed up from time to time, like a constant dripping of water, or being beaten to death by a strand of wet spaghetti.  I couldn't handle it anymore.  During my haitus I had a lot of time to think things over, and I came up with some points, and strategies to help me cope with this next time, and took a long look at my behavior as well.  So what did I learn, you may ask?

1.  Negativity breeds negativity:  If I post everytime I have a bad day two things will happen.  I will get support (albeit negative support) in the form of "oh you poor..."  or a bunch of :( symbols.  I'm already having a bad day to begin with, and getting reinforcement in that way doesn't help.  Besides, I believe venting is healthy, and going to a girlfriend's house, calling one of my loved friends who I have known for years, taking a walk with another mother, or crying on my husband's shoulder are much healthier ways to vent.  Which brings me to my second point.

2.  Complaining posts create laziness:  I need more people's numbers.  I have people who I can call more often, but I don't.  Because I can talk to them online.  I have neighbors I never see, because I get enough "social" interaction for myself through the internet.

3.  The internet is not my personal diary.  How many times have you almost posted something, but realized that the person you are mad at might see it, or they may know someone who will say something, or you really don't want your family to read it?:  Then you have to delete the vent. Or you look back at your posts, and realized that you complained ALOT.  People who know you may understand, but what about those people who you friended on a whim?  How do you sound to them?  How does looking back on your posts make YOU feel about yourself?  How many of us really expect everyone on our friend's list to read what we wrote?  Maybe we have a few close friend's who comment on our page daily.  Your expectations may have been to mainly share it with them, but what would it be like if everyone (76 people for me!!!!) replied to your post.  For me it would be overwhelming, and maybe even a little embarassing.

4.  Bad mouthing online spreads gossip, discontent, and furthermore it is there "forever".  Here again, it would be much better to discuss this with a trusted friend, spouse, diary, neutral party etc.  I post my creative stuff online as well.  If I ever decide to use the internet for job opportunities, then I don't want the whole world in on that personal stuff.  Although in that situation I probably create a completely different page.
Additionally, and this is the worst, if I complain about my husband, family, or friends online, then I am presenting them in a terrible light to the rest of the world.  People drive us crazy.  It is a part of life.  To take a quote from the military "Loose lips sink ships"  Something said on a whim about your loved ones is viewed by people who may not even know them.  They may form an opinion about that person, before even meeting them. 

So those are my conclusions.  To help present myself in a shinier, more polished, confident way online.  I know it's not the "authentic" me, but this isn't ME anyways.  It's a page about myself, a presentation to the world, with no "ugly pictures" of me, and easily corrected typos.  I will be trying these out and seeing what happens.  And if you don't hear from me as much online, then I will always have an ear to lend over the phone, or in person.  I leave you now with this quotation from Dolphina over at GoddessLife.

"..How many times have I been destructive or hurtful with another female classmate, coworker or friend by my own thoughts, gossip and rivalry with other women?  Unlike the open and healthy way men compete over sports and business with each other, competition with women takes on a personal nature, while maintaining a facade of being, "nice".
Whether or not it stems from sister rivalry or an insecure mother, we must resist the temptation to compete with women. If we compete with other women over men, looks, jobs, clothes and children, we are dooming ourselves to a lifetime of perpetual insecurity.  Sometimes the rivalry is reversed and we apologize for our own successes, fearing our friend will interpret our accomplishment as her own defeat. Seeing our lives as a grand contest among women is exhausting and robs us of the chance to make women our allies.
Who better than other women to understand what we are going through - on the job, with men, in friendships, with our family?  With whom should we join together for women's causes?  But we cannot expect other women to join us in a powerful sisterhood if we are continually reminding ourselves that these very women are our enemies..."

http://www.goddesslife.com/women-unite-lessons-i-learned-from-cheating-with-my-yoga-teacher